How Modern Love Is Preventing Us from Experiencing Eros (Featuring Anne Carson! Emmanuel Levinas! Byung-Chul Han! Roland Barthes! Sheila Heti! Socrates!)
I believe part of the reason we may have killed Eros is that we first killed Philia and Agápe. We don’t know what it means to love a lover because we don’t know what it means to love in the first place. We come to it first by learning to love a friend, and the unique qualities they have that might be different from our own. In this world of tribalism and separateness, mainly caused by social media (and the pandemic), we’ve lost sight of a type of otherness that has prevailed in the past. Second, with the eroding belief in God or a faith system, we have no use seeing ourselves as a person who worships but as a person who needs to be worshipped.
I believe part of the reason we may have killed Eros is that we first killed Philia and Agápe. We don’t know what it means to love a lover because we don’t know what it means to love in the first place. We come to it first by learning to love a friend, and the unique qualities they have that might be different from our own. In this world of tribalism and separateness, mainly caused by social media (and the pandemic), we’ve lost sight of a type of otherness that has prevailed in the past. Second, with the eroding belief in God or a faith system, we have no use seeing ourselves as a person who worships but as a person who needs to be worshipped.
i loved it! (no pun intended)
Beautiful
Thank you so much for your work. We need more sources of connection over separation. Men and women are supposed to be together.
beautifully written